This past week I had a ten minute tutoring session with one of the SCS coaches. I told her my thirty day goal of making $1,000 extra and said I didn’t know how I would do it.
When I was doing my self-coaching this morning, I wrote that I had to write a blog post today and I didn’t know what to write about.
I think there are two ways of looking at not knowing. It’s either we don’t know something, like a math problem, or we use not knowing to block ourselves from our own creativity and wisdom and keep ourselves stuck.
The moment we tell ourselves we don’t know how to do something or we don’t know what to do, it’s like we’re quitting. The brain stops looking for ways to do the thing or for ideas about what could be done.
Thinking about my $1,000 goal, the moment I tell myself I don’t know how to do it, I stop thinking of ways that I could make that extra money.
And the truth is I do have ideas when I’m not telling myself I don’t know. It feels so much more comfortable and safe not knowing because then I don’t have to do the work and I don’t have to deal with the disappointment of maybe not reaching my goal.
Instead, if I tell myself I don’t know, I’ve basically failed ahead of time. Because for sure I won’t figure it out while believing I don’t know. That’s just not how the brain works. The brain works by proving true what it thinks. So if it thinks “I don’t know,” it’ll stop brainstorming and coming up with ideas, because that would be out of alignment with the thought.
We can’t both know and not know at the same time.
So I’m banning “I don’t know” from my thoughts and am going to be watching my brain carefully for it to tell me it doesn’t know.
It seems like it’s true, though, doesn’t it? Like, no, I really don’t know how to make that much extra money. Great, you must be really committed to not making it.
How do we not yet know how a goal will be reached and also work towards reaching it? We believe we will reach the goal and we don’t worry about how. We focus on believing it with everything we’ve got. Believing it inspires action towards the goal and eventually it becomes our reality.
Do you think “I don’t know” often? What would you be creating in your life if you did know? What if you didn’t worry about the how and focused on holding steady within your mind the creative vision for your life?